This Hari Raya

It’s Friday.

In 4 days time Wifey and I, and probably my daughter Hana, will be heading to Johor for Hari Raya. This is one Hari Raya I have been looking forward to.

Last year, I was supposed to go to Wifey’s place with Spena for Hari Raya. Somehow Spena got tied-up, so the plan was cancelled. And everyday that I spent in Perhentian over the Hari Raya break, Wifey would read my constantly-updated blog, at times crying. This year, I will be with her. And this will be the first time that Hari Raya would be really meaningful to me.

Just now, as she was drifting away to lala-land, she smiled and said, “No one has ever loved me this way before. Thank you, Sayang.”

I kissed her forehead and hugged her tight, and replied, “That’s because no one’s ever loved me like this, Baby.”

More happy Haris Raya ahead, I pray.

Of course there is this part of me that feels sad because despite it being my turn to spend the Hari Raya with the kids, my ex is bent on not letting them be with me this year, treating them like her private property, confusing them by planting illogical stories into their mind. So much for a person who likes to portray herself as pious, when throughout the years I was with her, I had to remain patient because of the kids while she goes sleeping around with other men.

For those of you who are divorced, please do not poison your children’s mind either by creating wild stories about your ex, or telling them about the bad things about your ex, just so you’ll always win their love, or feel the pleasure of making your children hate your ex. The truth will prevail, and even if either of you win, it is always the children who would lose badly.

Be a human being for once, please…especially my ex. Because if I decide to forget that I am one, the whole world will know what she was up to whenever I was absent.

6 Replies to “This Hari Raya”

  1. this happened to my spouse too… i know how it feels. his kids have been poisoned to hate their father including me!!! some malay proverbs said: menggigit tangan orang yang bagi makan …(or something like that.. can recall huh). we are the one fed them including the homemaker bitchy mother, did financial aide every now and then. without fail delivering the alimony, but to the purest pain that they never appreciated our sacrife…

    but u luckier because u had chance to go out with children + ur wifey… but it would never happened to us… the children would not want to see their father with me. we’ve been married many years.

    somehow i envy reading ur blogs, saying to the world u spent holiday with newly built family…

    SD, u’re more lucky than us… truthfully.

  2. That is sad.

    It’s okay. God pays in cash. Tell your husband to hang in there. I know it saddens him most of the time especially when it comes to time for festivities like this.

  3. yeah, rite SD… God pays in cash. I’m sorry for my spouse and the children. Kids know nothing. That’s the advantage of the ex who won custody…

    We longed for the children to be with us, during Hari Raya, a day or atleast couple of hours and to accept their half brother…may be someday, yes someday.

    Anyway, a very happy Hari Raya to you + Mimin and whole family. Bet this gonna be meaningful in your life. cheers~

  4. oh, i am sorry to hear this often repeated tale. Parents out there, pls try to never poison your children’s mind against your spouse cas this really only confuses them and the innocents children become pawns in your game.

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